And, when she tags the "nothing" with an explanation that you and her do things for each other through the year so presents are not needed for her under the tree (the one that took four hours for her to decorate) - well, once again, just ignore that.
Plus, if she agrees with you that Christmas is just for kids - you might want to ignore that one as well.
And, you may notice that even though you said you wanted nothing (and meant it), she still got you something special. Just take a little lesson from that gesture.
Just want to make sure you knew all this because it took my husband about seven years to twig on that one.
However, the other day my work colleague asked K what he was getting me for Christmas (I was not around at the time) and he said:
"She says she does not want anything"
Er, I think I need to remind him that what I said and what I meant were not the same.
Sheesh, them men persons take ages to train.....
Ciao
LC
Actually, this is the ONE year where my wife and I have mutually agreed to do this. Nothing for each other. NOTHING.
ReplyDeleteWe've berated each other back and forth over it.
She's getting nothing.
Neither am I.
Sh*t.
You're right.
I need to go to the jewelry store.
Ah! The mysteries of communication between men and women. Women communicate -- men grunt in reply. Sometimes you just have to take them by the hand and point things out. Mine's pretty good at knowing what I want, but sometimes, well let's not go there. We had one great Christmas where he bought me a gift for everyone of the 5 senses. That was a Christmas to remember. Of course that was a number of years ago and the other day he asked me if the baking pans that are black as the inside of a coal mine need to be replaced? I said "Why yes, but that does not mean I want them wrapped up as Christmas presents, so think again, Buddy!" Will they ever learn?
ReplyDeleteKat
Hey, Linda, stop by my blog and pick up a little something for yourself from me. Cheers! Kat
Mooooog35: Oooops. Been there, done that - nothing means "nothing I can think of right this minute and surely you know me well enough to not have to ask".
ReplyDeleteKathleen: Oh, a household item under the tree - hmmm, not the best idea.
I take the opposite approach. I make my husband think my expectations are really high, even though they aren't, so he works just a little harder than he might otherwise. :-)
ReplyDeleteLuckily, I'm not a expensive jewelry/gift person. Oh no, I expect my husband to figure out what books and CDs I want. And just as luckily, he almost always gets it right.
Jennifer: Like you, I am not into jewelery or expensive items. Books,DVDs and CDs are always good. I also like the odd voucher to enable some post Christmas retail therapy. Anything will do - just make sure there is something for me under the tree!
ReplyDeleteI will have to send this post to my husband. Even when he says he wants nothing, he knows he will get at the least 3 gifts from me: coffee, chocolate, and stout. They are, he says, his 3 favorite things in life.
ReplyDeleteSeems to me people should just say what they really mean and dispense with all the guess work.
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DD: Hey, why aren't you on that list??? Stout - even I don't mind that now and then.
ReplyDeleteOswegan: Well, yes, but then women would be like guys.... And you would not want that now would you??? Although, I do leave lists of things I like (which are so small and strange) and say for my husband to just pick one or two. That helps.
It's kind-of funny but I've always been more like a guy in communication. I guess I'm just tired of beating around the bush, plus it really stresses me out when I don't say what I mean and other people don't get it.
ReplyDeleteThis could also be because a lot of people in my life aren't very good at reading between the lines.
In short, when I say I don't want anything, I really mean it. Then I thank people who give me gifts anyway, but end up a little annoyed that they didn't believe me. :D
Maybe they think you mean it, because when they guess what you want and are wrong time and again, well, things get brutal.
ReplyDeleteRay: My husband has sometimes given me things I don't like, but I would never be anything but pleased he went and looked for something special.
ReplyDeleteI did do my lolly after years of him giving me nothing for birthday or Christmas because it made me feel forgotten in the equation. He is good now. I also tell him what I would like as he says I am so hard to buy for.
You have to work it out together.