My husband has always maintained a friendship of sorts with his ex girlfriend. Unlike me and my ex's whom have all been effectively excommunicated (by me).
I don't mind at all he catches up for chat every few months or goes out and sees her play piano once a year.
She is the complete opposite to me in every possible way.
When they split up she went out with their dentist a few times. He is now our family dentist, so I have been having him remove my crusty plaque and fitting the odd crown for the past twenty years.
Each time I go there he always asks how she is and have I seen her like she is my friend or something. I always give a polite run down about the births, deaths, marriage and divorce that have been part of her life.
Last time I went he asked the same question.
"Oh, she is fine I suppose. She is having a bad time with menopause you know. She is ten years older than me so I expect she would be at that stage earlier than me", I said in a very nice voice.
The dentist looked down at me and said, "Really Linda, if I did not know you better I would say that was a bitchy thing you just said".
I was only answering his question.
Not being a bitch.